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On Seven Years of Marriage & Breakfasts

Posted on May 27, 2014 by Amy Rogers Hays

flowers in the sun

 

Seven years ago yesterday, we got married. I was too excited to sleep. I woke up at 3:30 am, convinced that no one was going to remember to get communion bread. So I tried to sleep for another hour. I couldn’t believe that I had actually made it to that day, through the 9 months of long-distance engagement. But sleep would not come. I gave in and got up to bake bread without a recipe. The rest of the house (which included a lot of out of town guests) slept. And as I pulled out that multigrain flat bread out of the oven, I looked up in that early May morning light, and I saw him walking up my drive way.

 

amyevan

 

He couldn’t sleep either, so he had walked over from the local hotel where he was staying. I left the bread on the counter, and we went to breakfast. We walked eight blocks to the diner where I had had my first job washing dishes at 15. We ordered omelets and fancy coffees, and we just basked in the glow of the day that was ahead of us.

 

breakfastfortwo

 

It was a still moment before the hair-dos, and getting dressed, and the endless pictures, and the commotion of hundreds of our closest friends and family coming to make sacred vows with us. But for that moment it was just us.

communion

 

 

Yesterday, I woke up at 5:30. The early morning May light filled in the upstairs-cabin bedroom with full day light at that early hour. I tried to go back to sleep for another hour. But we’ve been getting up around six for a year—teacher’s schedule. And I’ve never been any good at sleeping in. So I got up to make us breakfast: sautéed kale and broccoli and cabbage with sausages and eggs. It was a quiet start to a quiet day.

 

breakfastplate

 

We marveled that we had made it through the past year. We made it through the grueling hours of student teaching and nearly full-time tutoring. We made it through packing up and moving across country. We made it through waiting for the birth of our niece and saying goodbye to some of our closest friends. And as of Thursday we had made it through waiting for a job. Here we were, with a job for the fall and health insurance that starts mid-summer.

 

evan and flowers

 

On the cusp of a new chapter, we started the day with breakfast.

 

sauerkrautandspinachwithherbs

 

Thousands of breakfasts separate those two dishes of eggs and vegetables and sausage. Easter brunches with ham, and Christmas morning coffee cakes, hurried breakfasts gobbled up before running out of the door, or slow banana pancake stacks that stretch a Sunday morning out. These breakfasts make up 2,557 mornings of married life.

 

breakfast for two

 

Sometimes I remember that breakfast on my wedding day, and wonder if I had known how hard moving across country, looking for a job, joining a new church plant, and learning to be a part of an extended family would be. I wonder if it would have damped that joy. Probably not, I was foolishly, wonderfully in love, and I had made it through the long journey of waiting. And it didn’t really matter what was ahead of us, because it was us who would face it. And here we are again, move, new job, new church, more family, and still us to face it. And us to start the day with vegetables and eggs and sausage.

 

cuttingthecake

 

We have learned a lot between those breakfasts. We’ve learned about working hard and resting well. We’ve started and ended projects and programs. We’ve learned to say yes when we want to say no, and no when we want to say yes. And we’ve learned a lot about breakfast. We’ve learned about what foods nourish us, and what foods make us sick (sorry Jack Johnson, no more wheat banana pancakes). We’ve learned that the basic daily choices about what you consume, with your mouth, your mind, and your heart set the course for your day, your year, your life.

 

eggs

 

I don’t know what the next seven years will hold. But I know that I won’t face it alone, and every day I’ll start the day with a good breakfast.

 

awaytheygo

What are the everyday things that help you mark joyous occasions and time passed?

7 thoughts on “On Seven Years of Marriage & Breakfasts”

  1. Anne Hays says:
    May 28, 2014 at 7:07 pm

    Congratulations on your seventh anniversary. You are very wise to look back at the hurdles you and Evan have made it over successfully and taking strength from that experience for the future.
    The future looks very bright for you. We are looking forward to hearing more about Evan’s job, and your writing projects.
    Anniversary season is upon us! Jim and I will celebrate our 60th in a week or so. We have been very blessed with a wonderful family and a very happy marriage.

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    1. Amy Rogers Hays says:
      May 29, 2014 at 1:43 pm

      Thanks Grandma Anne! I know that you have gone through hard and good times in the last 60 years! That’s so amazing to think about being married for that long! We’re really excited by Evan’s job. It’s a high school history position. And right now it looks like he’ll be teaching four classes, two sections of 10th grade US history through the civil war, and then 2 sections of 11th grade US History from civil war to the present. It’s a Christian Charter School in Downtown Milwaukee, that’s fairly small. His new teacher in-service starts at the end of July, so it’ll be a short summer. We’re actually heading off to Atlanta for June. The company that Evan (and I) worked with in Maryland has a center there that needs a teacher for June, so they’re bringing us out. It is a little sad to trade Wisconsin June for Georgia June (weather wise) and to leave our tiny niece and new friends, but we’re grateful for the work! Right now it looks like I’ll just be writing down there, but there is a small chance I might tutor as well. I’ll probably write a post early next week chronically this change! Love, Amy

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  2. Jim Hays says:
    May 28, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    Dear Amy, Another beautiful presentation I call it presentation because I dislike the name “Blog”. It sounds so coarse and made up. Anyway, beautiful thoughts beautifully expressed embellished with beautiful pictures. Wonderful! Love, Grandpa Hays

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    1. Amy Rogers Hays says:
      May 29, 2014 at 1:36 pm

      Thanks Grandpa Jim! I think the term blog is a little silly too. I just finished reading this lovely book from 1938 called Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day by Winifred Watson and she has this character with the last name of Blogg, and it clearly supposed to be a terrible last name. And here we are using it all the time. I hope that you have a WONDERFUL 60th Anniversary. That is such a great accomplishment and great gift. We miss you both so very much, and are hopeful we can make it out to Maryland soon. Love, Amy

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  3. Kate says:
    May 30, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    Happy Anniversary and many more!

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    1. Amy Rogers Hays says:
      May 31, 2014 at 6:59 pm

      Thanks Kate! It’s so funny that we’re back in Atlanta, just like we were right after we got married! When we filled that SUV you lent us to the brim and made our way out to Maryland, stopping in Atlanta for a wedding. Miss you and Colleen! Hope Annapolis is beautiful!! Love, Amy

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  4. Deb Rogers says:
    June 7, 2014 at 2:12 am

    Dearest Amy:

    Congratulations to both you and Evan on your 7th wedding anniversary! Your wedding day was a joyous time filled with the efforts and well wishes of many friends and members of your family. I remember the last couple of days of preparation wondering how all the tasks would get done and they did! May the coming years be filled with good health and many blessings.
    Love you,
    Mom

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